November 14th, 2010


Why I don't like drag

I don't like crossdressing in fic, or drag as a Halloween or entertainment thing in real life. Not because I don't think it's sexy or funny, I don't, but that's a personal matter instead of a value judgement.

My issue with it is simple. I find it insulting.

If it were up to me, men should be allowed to wear dresses and skirts and whatever.I'd prefer it, if they wore stuff that actually looked good on them and didn't add fake breasts, but they should be able to wear it. In the same manner that women are now allowed to wear pants and suits. As a normal part of life.

Crossdressing and drag denigrates that. It basically says that socalled 'women''s clothing is inferior or 'funny' or 'weird' or 'fetish' like.

It's like people dressing up as stereotypical Indians because it's exotic and weird. If people wore traditional Native American clothing (and yes, I'm well aware of just how huge a group of different styles I'm talking about, there's dozens if not hundred of tribes, all with their own styles and traditions), it shouldn't be because they're trying to dress up, but because they find the clothing in question attractive.

If a man wants to wear a dress, he should be able to do so, without pretending he's a woman. (unless we're talking about a man who identifies as a woman and is merely trying to express their appearance in the manner they identify mentally. That's different cause those are women who just happen to be born with the appearance of a man. Not their fault and if they want to look like the gender they identify with, then that's their business.

But when you've got a frat boy dressing up as a girl, because it's funny, then he's basically insulting women. He's bringing himself down for a moment to be 'the other', not because he wants to identify with them or know what it's like to be a woman, but because he's mocking them, because he is 'othering' them.

Sorry, I'm bad at expressing myself on these kind of matters.

I just find it wrong that we live in a world where 'female clothing' is somehow considered inferior to 'male clothing'. Where it's ok for a girl to wear pants, cause she'd be rising up to a male level. But if a boy wore a dress, he'd be making a fool of himself.

Kinda like how a girl who became a mechanic is seen as rising up the ladder, but a boy who wants to be a homemaker is often looked down upon, 'because that's not a typically male profession'

It's all in how we express ourselves to the world, do we say that the positions of males and females (and whatever gender you identify yourself as) are equal, or is there a ladder where one is just a wee bit superior to the other and if one on top of the ladder pretends to be the other, then it's 'funny'. or mockworthy like pretending to be a dog, something that can't be taken serious.

Yuletide question

Can anyone explain that freeform bit?

And when they say details, is that the part about what kind of story you'd like or what?

I find it very very badly explained, even in the vid they linked to.

Dear Yuletide Author

Ok, so I finally got through that sign up form, so I figured I might as well actually type up a letter for whomsoever got the luck (or misfortune ;-)) to end up with my requests.

In the first place, thanks so much for writing something. I'm a very easy person to write for. (yeah right ;-) )

It was a really hard decision what fandom to make requests for, I can tell you that much. In the end, I chose The Walking Dead, Spider-Girl, Dexter and Ultimate Spider-Man.

(I really wanted to ask something for 'My best friend is a vampire', but I ran out of request options and once I saw that Dexter was on the list of allowed fandoms....)

End of me nagging*g*

I mostly prefer gen fics, as you might have noticed, I don't mind a little romance, but I prefer family relationships and friendships.

As for the Walking Dead, what interest me about this show (and the comic it's based upon), isn't so much the zombies themselves, as to what the situation does to the humanity of the characters. How do they cope with the horror, the bleakness of it all and how do they find the strength to keep going. I've read all the comics, so if you're a fan of the comic and want to bring in bits from it, I have absolutely no problem with that)

Oh for the record, even though I love all the characters, my fave character both on the show and in the comic, is Glenn, and if you could focus the story on Glenn and T-Dog I'd sincerely appreciate it. :-)

Spider-Girl... well I can honestly say there isn't a single character in this comic that I hate. (even though I could do without April, don't hate her, she's just not a fave) and I really really want May to find out who Reilly is and for Peter to welcome Ben's son into the family. (your choice of course, but I'd love you forever if you wrote something like that)

Dexter's easy, s1 is my least favorite season, and the only character I don't want to see as anything other than a mention or a flashback, is Brian or Rudy. The one thing that I most want to see, mostly because I seriously doubt the show would ever let it happen until the last eps of the last season, is for Dexter to be found out and arrested.

Not just for the chance to see Dexter in prison, but for his friends and family's reactions to finding out that Dexter's been fooling them all these years.

I love Rita, Astor, Cody and Harrison and what makes Dexter so interesting to me, is the struggle he has between his sociopathic side and the part of him that genuinely does care about his family, even if he can't recognize it as such.(but if you gave a big part to Angel Batista, Maria Laguerta, and/or James Doakes, I'd sincerely appreciate it)

Ultimate Spidey is awesome at the moment, and I love both May and Jonah, any interaction between them would be awesome. Just please don't make Peter a loser, I hate it when writers have Pete making a fool of himself. (it's probably the primary reason I can't stand ASM these days)

Can't wait to see what you come up with. And once again, thank you :-)